做七十二變的成長型家長 | 清華附中國際部第十四期家長學校回顧

THIS Parent School

清華附中國際部家長學校

Summary

講座概況

2019年11月1日，清華附中國際部第十四期家長學校在培訓樓如期開講。本期家長學校的主題是《做七十二變的成長型家長》，小學部心理老師陳開航擔任主講人，向家長介紹小學到高中三個階段孩子的發展過程，以及這期間家長需要掌握的知識和采取的必要行動。

On November 1, 2019, the fourteenth lecture of the THIS Parent School was held in the training building. Ms. Chen delivered the lecture on the topic of becoming a growth mindset parent and helped parents understand the whole development process of their children. She also discussed the knowledge and necessary actions that parents need to master during this process.

本次講座雖然圍繞家長們最關切的主題，但內容卻富有挑戰性。原因有兩點，首先孩子成長各階段有不同的特點和挑戰，而家長的需求也不盡相同。此外，本次家長學校涉及兒童期和青春期的性教育，這個話題對于很多家長來說比較敏感且很難從自身成長中汲取經驗。開航老師在講座中不僅講解了理論知識，還手把手教給家長具體的實操方法。更難能可貴的是，開航老師為家長們準備了豐富的文字內容，講座的幻燈片就是一部孩子性教育、親密關系和成長教育的簡明教科書，家長回家就可以參考使用。

The content of the lectures and discussion was challenging for two reasons. First of all, there are different characteristics and challenges in different stages of a child’s development and parents aren’t always aware of the variations making behaviors difficult to understand. And this lecture involved sex education in childhood and adolescence, which is quite sensitive to many Chinese parents. In the lecture, Ms. Chen not only gave parents theoretical knowledge, but also some practical methods for understanding and dealing with these topics. What's more, Ms. Chen prepared rich text content for parents. The slide of the lecture is a concise textbook of children's sex education and intimate relationship education, which is convenient for parents to use at home.

Highlights

講座紀實

講座的第一部分，開航老師首先向家長介紹了發展心理學中最經典的埃里克森的心理社會發展階段理論。由此引出了性教育的基本原則和開展兒童性教育的重要性:

In the first part of the lecture, Ms. Chen introduced Eriksson's psychosocial development stage theory, which is the most classic one in developmental psychology. Parents were introduced to the basic principles of sex education with significant emphasis on the need to educate children about these principles:

性教育十分重要，它可以幫孩子減少很多麻煩。

Sex education is very important. It can help children avoid a lot of troubles.

性教育不僅僅是性生理教育，更是一個愛和親密關系的整全教育和人格教育。

Sex education is not only the education of sexual physiology, but also the education of love and intimacy.

每個家庭都可以根據孩子的情況、家庭的文化，決定開展什么樣的性教育。

Each family can decide what kind of sex education to carry out according to their children's situation and family culture.

性教育包含非常重要的預防性侵犯的教育。

Sex education includes the education on preventing sexual assault.

針對一些普適性問題，開航老師給出了如下建議：

In response to the common concerns of parents, Ms. Chen gave the following suggestions:

家長應直面孩子提出的問題，不扼殺他們的好奇心。

Parents should face up to their children's questions and encourage their curiosity.

家長需要提前儲備好知識，以便當場回答孩子們的提問。不清楚如何回答時可以邀請孩子一起探索答案。

It is better for parents to accumulate knowledge in advance to answer the children's questions on the spot. When you don't know how to answer, invite your child to explore the answer together.

用孩子年齡可以理解的語言來解釋。

Use the language that can be easily understood by your children.

不要把責任推給對方。問爸爸的問題，爸爸答，問媽媽的問題，媽媽答。

Be responsive. If father is asked, father should answer. If mother is asked, mother should answer.

性教育沒有家長想像的那么難以啟齒，孩子也不會學壞。聯合國教科文組織的研究數據表明，接受過性教育的孩子，首次性行為的平均年齡會推遲。

Sex education is not as difficult as parents think, and children will not follow bad examples. According to UNESCO research data, the average age of first sexual activity for children who have received sex education will be significantly delayed compared to their counterparts who have not.

Q&A

家長提問摘要

講座結束后，家長們踴躍提問，分享自己在進行親密關系教育中遇到的困惑以及收獲的經驗。開航老師提出自己的見解，與家長一同探討適合的解決方案。

After the lecture, parents actively asked questions on intimate relationship education. Ms. Chen shared her opinions and discussed appropriate solutions with them.

Q：我家孩子發育比別人晚，會不會因為性教育而提前發育并開始關注性？

My child develops later than his peers, will he develop ahead of time and start to pay attention to sex because of sex education?

A：不會。孩子會從比他發育早的同學那里聽到各種信息。家長給的信息會更準確、對他更有好處。

No. Your child will be exposed to all kinds of information from those classmates who develop earlier than him. The information given by you is more accurate and beneficial to his development.

Q：用書來幫助孩子進行性教育好不好？

How about using books to give children sex education?

A：很好！除了借助書，還可以使用這次家長學校的PPT作為輔助工具。家長和孩子談及性教育的時候可以把視線停留在書上，避免直視孩子產生的尷尬。

Good Idea! In addition to the help of books, parents can also use the PPT of today's Parent School as an auxiliary tool. When parents provide sex education, they can focus on books to avoid the embarrassment of eye contact with their children.

Parent Feedbacks

家長反饋

講座結束后家長們意猶未盡，留在教室和開航老師繼續探討。家長們的書面反饋也極其的熱烈和認真（下一期THIS家長學校的主題就會從其中產生哦）

Parents' written feedback was honest and sincere (Note: the topic of our next lecture will be selected from this feedback)

此次講座我學到了性教育的知識，還有孩子的不同發展階段。謝謝老師勇敢坦誠地分享自己的成長經驗。

I learned the knowledge of sex education and the different stages of children's development in this lecture. Ms. Chen, thank you for sharing your own personal experience bravely and honestly with us.

我學到了性教育的溝通方法！

I have learned the communication method of sex education!

我學到了父母在日常生活中如何正確地、不逃避地和孩子談論性的問題。我學到了如何告訴孩子什么是愛、什么是愛情、什么是好的愛，以及愛有哪些不同的方式和態度.

I learned how parents can talk about sex with their children correctly and openly in daily life. I learned how to tell children what is love between friends, what is love between spouses/lovers, what is good love, and what are the different ways to express love.

12月6日，本學期最后一期家長學校

我們，不見不散！

See you on the first Friday of December!

作者Writing|Hua Tang (THIS Parent)

圖片Pictures| Hanyin Song

編輯Editing| Hanyin Song

審核Auditing| Jeff Joyce, Toni Dong, Lan Yi,Wenping Li